COPING WITH SLANDERS & TOXIC GOSSIPS

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Utter Helplessness in the Midst of Toxic Gossips

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Helplessness in the Midst of Toxic Gossips

`Hate the sin and not the sinner’ is a precept which though easy enough to understand is rarely practiced, and that is why the poison of hatred spreads in the world.’

M. Gandhi

 

When one is being attacked by vicious gossips and slanders, one cannot see it but can sense it. That is more dangerous because in such a situation, we do not know whether we are losing our mind or our reputation. We are faced with a Hopson’s Choice- both situations are unacceptable to us. We are literally trapped between the devil and the deep blue sea.

In such an adverse situation, ponder on the wise words of Sarah Dening, the author of `The Everyday I-Ching’, that seem to strike a deep chord of empathy.

“You are trapped in an oppressive situation which is beyond your control. Life appears to be conspiring against you. There is nothing you can do at this point to change things for the better… In the meantime, do not waste your energy or resources trying to struggle against the odds. Hold back and wait. There is no point in trying to influence others at present. Your words will only fall on deaf ears. All in all, you may well feel at the end of your tether.” The author advises the sufferer or victim to hold tightly on to one’s faith in oneself and with inner strength, one can survive this traumatic time and come out winning in the face of seemingly impossible odds.

Words to Ponder

Remember that your governing self becomes invincible when it draws into itself, and calmly refuses to act against its will, even if its resistance may sometimes appear irrational. Marcus Aurelius, Roman philosopher and Emperor