In our broken world with so many people with wounded self-esteem, it is not surprising that a significant portion of the violent crimes may be triggered by cold stares which can be interpreted as hostile challenge on the emotional and psychological level between the person initiating the cold stare and the victim. It is dangerous to make such a hostile emotional connection with a stranger whose psychological and emotional state is unknown to us. A cold stare can be interpreted by the victims as demeaning, ridiculing, and condemning their self-esteem based on their past. And nobody, not even a saint, likes to receive a cold stare that is like a dart thrown at him or her! Worse than a dart, a cold stare hurts the wounded self-esteem of the victim and nothing can generate as much animosity and resentment as damaging another person’s self-esteem.
In recent years, there have been numerous reports of indiscriminate killings by gunmen with no criminal records and no rational motive. It would be interesting for researchers to do some in-depth investigations to discover the connection between vicious gossips, toxic shame and insanity leading to extreme violence. Usually, victims suffering from toxic shame also are also hyper-sensitive people. And hyper-sensitive people are prone to feel slighted very easily because they tend to distort the negative impact of unfriendly or hostile acts like cold stares.
Some people have a simplistic notion that sending out cold stares at selected targets may prevent them from committing more crimes. At best, cold stares create more prejudice and social discrimination against the victims who may have been unjustly damaged and who don’t deserve such treatment. Under such circumstances, some law-abiding victims may just suffer in quiet desperation without recourse to the law to redress the injustice.
At worst, some forms of violence may break out as a result of some cold stares and our law-abiding society has been undermined in an insidious manner by various parties. As far as hardened criminals are concerned, the cold stares will serve to encourage them to commit more similar crimes to justify and to defy society. It has become a psychological duel in the social arena. Hate begets more hate and love breeds more love. It is wise to ponder on the words of Paul Wilson, “To bear ill-feelings towards someone else is more damaging to the bearer than the recipient. For your own sake, forgive quickly and freely.”
Thoughts To Ponder
No one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful and greedy- unless you let him.
Someone was hurt before you; wronged before you; beaten before you; humiliated before you; raped before you; yet Someone survived.
If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
Submitted by Philosaiki