`The most important things in life are the thoughts you choose to think,’
A person suffering from deep shame often also suffers from depression. The two seem to go together. Deep shame, being a master negative emotion, is capable of bringing down the whole mental structure. This negative emotion is insidious and works like termites eating their way stealthily and rapidly whatever is positive in our minds. Once afflicted with deep shame, we tend to believe that we have suffered a massive catastrophe. Then we begin to believe that this catastrophe has engulfed our lives and has become an integral part of our lives. Then depression sets in like a bear hug and shuts down the light at the end of the tunnel. As the Chinese proverb goes, the birds can fly over our heads but we must not allow them to build their nests on our heads.
In the words of J. Oswald Sanders, `The mind of man is the battleground on which every moral and spiritual battle is fought.’
`Trusting life comes from making some meaning of who we are, what we are all about. When we confront shame, we become aware of emptiness, a spiritual hunger. Our attempts to fill this hunger with controlling, compulsive behaviors only lead to pain and remorse.’
Merle A. Fossum & Marilyn J. Mason – `Facing Shame: Families in Recovery’
Food for Thought
Gossips and slanders often act as triggers for depression for the victims. It is so easy and fun to gossip about somebody’s mistakes and blunders in life but what one may not know how bad it is to be placed in that kind of position of victimhood.
Have you ever read the recent bestseller, `The Tipping Point’ ? Or have you ever heard of a tiny butterfly flapping its wings in the Amazon forests in Brazil may cause a typhoon in the Philippines several years later ?
Sometimes, the first stone that is cast at someone’s reputation may triggers off his/her depression that may possibly lead to his/her suicide? The stone that you cast may not be the first stone but nonetheless, it has to capacity to add to the necessary critical mass that forms the tipping point for the victim’s desperate crucial decision to resort to commit suicide. Ponder on the tragic chain of terrible consequences from the gossips that may have been started by you or participated by you…It is pretty scary, isn’t it?
Submitted by Philosaiki