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LEARN FROM THE HUMBLE UNDESIRABLE WASPS A LESSON ABOUT THE DANGERS OF JUDGING OTHERS.

LIKE BEES, THE WASPS ALSO PERFORM INVALUABLE FUNCTIONS THAT ARE UNSEEN BY US.

I just wonder how many of us would really like wasps flying inside our homes. I can safely bet that the vast majority of us would either chase the wasps out of our homes or kill them if they choose to stay inside the house.
I believe most of us have the nasty experiences of being bitten by wasps. In short, they are widely regarded as pests that are socially rejected in our community.
However I would urge you to think again.If God created wasps millions of years ago, there must be a very good reason for their existence in the Divine Plan in spite of our negative sentiments.

Do you know that there are thousands of different kinds of wasps?The smallest are microscopic and the largest queen is 4 cm long with an 8 cm wingspan. Fortunately she lives in the Himalayas; so most of us are unlikely to encounter this gigantic wasp.
Most of us are not aware of the positive roles played by wasps in our ecosystem. It is this ignorance or lack of awareness that has created our negative feelings towards wasps. In fact, wasps play a vital ecological role in life. One of the jobs they do is to pollinate flowers, like bees. They are not as important as the bees but they still do a lot of essential work.Take the fig trees, for example. In the rainforests, figs are the most important source of food for fruit-eating animals. Each of the many different species of fig has its own type of wasp to pollinate it. The fig and the wasp are entirely interdependent on each other. Without the wasps, the figs would not be pollinated and no fruit would grow. Without the fruit, countless animals would perish and a large part of the rainforest ecosystem would probably collapse.

Perhaps even more important is the way they control the numbers of other insect pests. The painful sting that we know is a development of a paralyzing poison that many wasps use. The wasp attacks a spider, a caterpillar and paralyses it. Then she takes it to her nest which may be a hole in the wood or soil and she lays an egg on or in it. When the wasp larva hatches out it feeds on the paralyzed insect or spider.
It sounds horrible but that is the way nature operates. If the wasps do not inject poison and immobilize their preys to feed their larvae in this way, the populations of other pests might explode and upset their ecosystem. People might lose crops or have to use more pesticides which are harmful to humans. For instance, the sawfly, a serious pest in North America that was destroying spruce trees, was controlled by introducing wasps.
If we had voted this seemingly undesirable pest, the wasp, out of our world through our ignorance, we would have unwittingly killed millions of other animals in the rainforests and undermined the whole ecosystems all over the world.(Adapted from `77 Talks for 21st century Kids’ by Chris Chesterton)

Food For Thought
Things are rarely as simple as they seem. Perhaps that is why Jesus warned us not to judge each other. Somebody might appear to  be a real pest but there are certainly all kinds of good things about them that we are not aware of. Don’t pass a negative judgment against him/her because we don’t know enough to pass a negative judgment. What we see or hear about the negative things may be only a fragment of the total information about the supposedly negative person. Perhaps we should think of the wasp before telling them to buzz off!

Before you think about gossiping or slandering somebody, just say a personal prayer:
“Dear God, you designed the world and all the plants and animals in it.You did a wonderful job. You made all the people too. When I am tempted to judge someone because I don’t like something about them, remind me of the wasp. Amen.”

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FINDING REAL MEANINGS IN THE MIDST OF BROKENNESS AND WOUNDED SELF-ESTEEM

WHAT IS THE REAL MEANING OF LIFE FOR THIS RED ALTITUDE WILD FLOWER IN THE MIDST OF TERRIBLE COLD?

FINDING MEANINGS IN LIFE  IN THE MIDST OF  BROKENNESS AND WOUNDED SELF-ESTEEM
Last night, I had a bad insomnia. This was my first night in Ubud, Bali. Instead of wallowing in the misery of trying to fall asleep and the futile boring exercise of counting sheep, I decided to do something positive. I decided to transform the sleepless night into a fruitful night of solemn reflection on the brokenness of life in general and my own life in particular.   The chief cause of brokenness usually starts with flawed people- their missteps in life or the negative responses to their bad mistakes or adversity or disorders in life.
In my contemplation of the brokenness of my life, it is natural to ponder on the theme of the meaning of life. On this mystical topic, the acclaimed African writer, Chinua Achebe, shares his valuable insight with us, “It is quite clear that we cannot know why we are here. But it is permissible (indeed necessary) to attempt to search out from all resources available to us (including our imagination, intelligence, memory and history) the conditions that may enhance our sojourn.
I take my bearing from a peculiar creation story of my people, the Igbo of southeastern Nigeria… The point of the story, I take it, is that creation is a continuing process; that the world was never `finished’ and found to be good, as in the book of Genesis. It is only potentially good and requires consultation between the Creator and humankind to make it habitable.
One meaning of our life, then, is the opportunity and challenge it presents to us for participation in the continuous process of creation- through discussion and cooperative work rather than conflict.”
The above insight has significant implications for the broken people in our broken world. Our present world is badly broken precisely because most of the people living in it are broken. Many people stay broken because they do not reflect on the meaning of their brokenness. As one philosopher says, `The elixir is hidden in the toxin’. If only the victims of brokenness are curious enough to reflect on the relationship between their brokenness and the meaning of their lives, then they will receive an unmistakable light that may dispel the darkness in their lives.

We, broken people, must not remain stuck in the gutter of our brokenness and despair. To get out of the mental gutter of our woundedness, we need to awaken our awareness of who we really are and the unique meanings of our lives. Without an awakened awareness, the victim of brokenness will continue to live a reactive life of self-denial, one that is filled with self-deception and delusion. An awakened awareness will  alert our slumbered self-honesty to see ourselves as we really are- our wretchedness and our shadows as well as our strengths so that we will be able to reclaim the authentic meanings of our lives.
When I was dealt terrible blows of cyclical shame and wounded self-esteem over a span of six decades, I simply could not discern the repeated patterns in my complicated life because I did not awaken my awareness. But after a year of reflection over the paradox of the elixir embedded in the toxin, it gradually dawned on me that the toxins of shame in my life are also the elixir that will save my life. So this valuable insight led to the birth of my blog to share my experiences and my sensitive vulnerabilities to help the helpless victims to awaken their awareness and change their negative perceptions which are necessary for the inner transformation of their wounded lives. Writing these blogs is a seemingly foolhardy exercise because apparently I have nothing to gain but everything to lose. However I chose to follow my heart rather than my head in this situation. I chose to take a calculated risk that required lots of courage. In retrospect, my  blog has been designed to become my little humble vehicle to disseminate the seeds of unconditional love of God to help other victims to spark off their recovery from their wounded self-esteem. I started this blog not as a reaction to neutralize my guilt of my mistakes in life or to win the social approval of others. The blog was started because I recognized that this would be the vehicle that would bring into fruition the meaning of my life. This is something that I had to do because it is a unique niche where my life intersects with the social needs of the wounded world at this brief moment of eternity.
Equally important, I also recognize that we are all interconnected- the healthy ones and the wounded ones, the good ones and the bad ones, the black ones and the white ones etc. This is a proactive approach that can bring out the best of everything in my life- my passion to use my toxins in my life as healing balms to relieve the pain and suffering of other victims. I feel I have been amply rewarded when I received a feedback from a reader at the end of last year- “this blog has been refreshing and helping me to go through my most difficult time- so genuine, so original & truly in every word written…(Yurike Yuanita Sumitomo- 15th Dec 2010)The knowledge that my blogs have helped just one wounded soul in this world is enough to justify all my time and efforts.To be able to participate in this positive project to do something for someone in moments of need is my personal mission of humility and love. Ultimately the real healing can only come from the good God whose holy spirit can reach the innermost recess of his wounded children to bring about total healing of body and mind. In the job of collecting and disseminating God’s unconditional love to others,  my humble blogs are merely broken vessels at best and useless artifacts at worst.
Food For Thought


The victories bring joy, and new opportunities. The defeats bring wisdom, strength, determination, and new opportunities. In this way, life moves continually forward. In each moment, you can build upon whatever has come before. Sometimes things happen just as you expected they would, and then there are times when nothing goes the way you had it planned. In any event, there is a way to respond triumphantly. Learn to see the value no matter what outer conditions and circumstances may be concealing it. Know that there is value, and you will find it. Right now, you are where you are supposed to be. For right now, you are where you can truly make a difference. The ups and downs and ins and outs of life have brought you to this day. And on this day, you can make something beautiful out of it all. — Ralph Marston