COPING WITH SLANDERS & TOXIC GOSSIPS

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LET OUR TONGUES BE THE POSITIVE CHANNELS OF GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND COMPASSION FOR OUR NEIGHBORS.

LET OUR TONGUES  BE POSITIVE CHANNELS OF GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND COMPASSION FOR OUR NEIGHBORS.
“We all make mistakes in all kinds of ways, but the man who can claim that he never says   the wrong thing can consider himself perfect, for if he can control his tongue, he can control every other part of his personality!”                                       James 3:2

It is so hard to control our tongues because most human beings love gossips.    The following poem provides lots of food for thought regarding the way we exercise our tongues.   Dropping a careless hurtful word about someone’s life can have far-reaching ugly effects on that person’s life. But if we say something kind or encouraging about somebody, it will also have a positive impact on that person’s life. The choice is ours because only we ourselves can control our tongues.

Ponder on the significance of this poem:
“Drop a Pebble in the Water” by James W. Foley:

Drop a pebble in the water: just a splash, and it is gone;
But there’s half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on.
Spreading, spreading from the centre,
Flowing to the sea
And there is no way of telling where the end is going to be.

Drop an unkind word, or careless: in a minute it is gone;
But there’s half-a-hundred ripples circling on and on and on.
They keep spreading, spreading, spreading from the centre as they go
And there is no way to stop them, once you’ve started them to flow.

Drop a word of cheer and kindness: in a minute you forget;
But there’s gladness still a-swelling, and there’s joy a-circling yet,
And you’ve rolled a wave of comfort whose sweet music can be heard.
Over miles and miles of water just by dropping one kind word.

(Adapted from “God’s Little Devotional Book”)


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THREE VITAL KEYS TO LIBERATE YOU FROM YOUR DISORDER OF TOXIC SHAME.

There are three master keys to unlock the chronic disorder of toxic shame –awareness, response to life and your response to God’s unconditional love.
The first one is recommended by Buddha- awareness or mindfulness.
Be aware of your disorder, acknowledge it and accept it unconditionally without any denial.
Be aware of the unconditional love of God and accept it fully.

The second master key is your Response to your circumstances and your disorder of shame. This master key is recommended by Taoism
The Tao Te Ching proclaims that your response is everything in life. In other words, take responsibility for your disorder and your life. The quality of your response will determine your rate of recovery.

The third master key is the focus on the unconditional love of God and how you respond to this wonderful love.
Awakened awareness, and unconditional acceptance of this divine love will definitely lift up your self-worth. If God can love you for what you are –with all your flaws, your shadows, your evil intentions, words and manipulative actions to promote your selfish welfare at the expense of others, then you can also love and respect yourself.
Why? Because you have been made in the image of God and you are his child born with the birth-right of worthiness to inherit the kingdom of God. The final step is how do your make an appropriate response to this unconditional divine love? This is paramount because if you respond with love to everything and everybody without any hate or toxic emotions, you will be guaranteed of the passport to your inner healing. My personal experiences, perceptions and eventual recovery of 60 years of this addictive disorder have validated these insights on the art of being healed from toxic shame!

Submitted by David YKK